BSBS Review: Miracles From Heaven

A little girl with an incurable disease falls from a tree, hits her head, and a fall that should have killed her actually heals her. Do you think this miracle can truly happen? Did she really see Heaven and Jesus?

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The Jungle Book

Check out my latest review on The Jungle Book, a story that has been redone and rewritten in several ways, most notably the Disney animation. How does the original book hold up against the live action/CGI remake? Check out the BSBS Review below!

Full/Fuller House

Full House was an important sitcom for me to watch in my childhood as it did provide for me an alternative to what other parenting styles were out there. So when I heard that the story would continue in the reboot/spinoff Fuller House, I couldn’t help but shed my thoughts on both shows and compare them.

Mind you, my thoughts on Full House were based on a tiny impression I got last year when I gave it a shot at a rewatch. It wasn’t until Fuller House and this scene where Stephanie’s classmate admits to being beaten at home, did I get interested in what I’m doing now: binge watching Full House.

So right off the bat, I will retract what I say in my review and let you know that I am finding myself more inclined to identify with the legitimate conflicts they faced in Full House, as well as stating that the heart of the original is bigger than the new series because the feels sure hit me at times.

This review is my first non-book, non-movie review and made me realize that I don’t have to restrict myself to book to film adaptations and maybe branch out. I felt so ansy about wanting to make another video and I couldn’t wait for the next two BSBS reviews I’ll post in the next couple days, that I just had to randomly do this retrospective one.

Enjoy!

How to Be Single

In BSBS fashion, following a ranty review on something I loathed, here’s something I loved. Thanks to this desire of mine to review book to film adaptations, I caught wind of How to Be Single, a book about the modern love life and how it has changed since women have become more independent to pursue careers and become financially stable without having to get married.

It was complimentary to Pride and Prejudice and Zombies being about women exercising their power to choose the right man to marry for life, in hopes of landing a nice and wealthy man. But gone was the wordiness and stupid pointless zombie decaptation scenes and presented to me what I prefer in my fiction now; contemporary and grounded in reality.

For this video, I strayed away from getting too detailed on the plot and storyline and focused more on the philosophy of it. I wanted to leave those details for others to enjoy at their own leisure and talk more about the cultural impact this book can have if more people read it, or even watched the movie. The idea that being single shouldn’t be a shameful affliction, rather a liberating time in your life where you can develop self-knowledge and heal from your pain before you find a lover to share your life and self with.

How I Conceived the Idea of It Starts at Home

bully-6“My life sucked when I was in high school, so how much worse would it have been if I was a girl?” That was the important question I asked myself after I finished reading Damned and Are You There, God? It’s Me, Margaret.

When I was a teenager, I got into heaps of trouble due to talking back at teachers, retaliating against bullies, and on some occassions I became a bully myself. The kind of bullying that I experienced and carried out fell on the masculine side of bullying. This included, but was not limited to, physical violence and intimidation.

And so due to society’s propaganda against us males being thoughtless violent brutes, I used to think bullying was only a male thing, but no, our supposedly gentle birth giving and nurturing counterparts are not exempt from this behaviour. I am speaking in generalities of course, since typically it is boys who get into fist fights, but the form of bullying girls are capable of can be as equally destructive. It’s just more subtle and harder to spot.

To understand the female psyche, and more importantly that of the teenage female psyche, I took to reading more young adult novels with female lead characters, as well as talking to my female friends, cousins, and co-workers to ask about their experiences of having been teenagers.

50-race-attacks-schools-day-picturebullyingpreventionnow-comI learned about how feminine bullying consisted more of psychological tactics. They employ more verbal abuse through passive aggression, spreading gossip, and public humiliation, thus resulting in the destruction of their victim’s self esteem. By recognizing their victim’s personal vulnerabilities such as their body image and emotional issues, female bullies exploit those weaknesses in order to gain a sense of power.

Why would anyone want to command and demand power in such destructive ways, especially when there are healthier ways to feel and be empowered? The answer is quite simple, but also very difficult to accept. High school students are made to feel disempowered, not only by the prison like structure public high schools consist of, but also by the maltreatment they receive at home.

This is why it’s important for parents take the time to connect with their children as opposed to control them. To use their hands and their words to guide and comfort their children, not to strike or intimidate them. Otherwise, where do you think this behaviour comes from? Children are sponges. They only learn what they live, and devoid of any self awareness or intervention from peaceful people to point out the dysfunction, they will often bring their home life out into the world, particularly at school.

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If you are bullied at home, you are likely to become a victim and/or perpetrator of bullying. Either you will walk down the school hallways with slumped shoulders, head bowed in hiding, and sticking close to the walls as to avoid detection, or you will attempt to regain the power you are robbed from at home by mistreating the former.

It’s not set in stone, teenagers do have the choice and capacity to act virtuously, as well as develop the self confidence and healthy support groups in order to ward off bullying–but studies have shown that maltreatment of children sets them up to exude anti-social behaviours and aggressive tendancies later in life.

So why write through a female perspective for my book? Threats of meeting another boy at the flagpole to beat the shit out of him is already such an obvious and apparent form of bullying, but bullying takes on several other forms. Society and the media will usually only touch upon the effect, but not the cause, because fundamentally…

Bullying…starts at home.

“Stop Being So Childish”

There have been a few offensive words that I’ve eliminated from my vocabulary that dehumanize certain people. Adding to that subtraction, I’m also going to stop using the word “childish.” I don’t think I’ve ever said it that much, but either way, I want to take a stand against saying such a word.

It’s demeaning to children when you label somebody’s behaviour as “childish,” because you create the association that all negative behaviours are synonomous with being a child. Whether it’s immaturity, abrasiveness, being annoying, or any other behaviours people deem as “childish,” we all know that adults are prone to these behaviours as well.

If the beginning of wisdom is to call things by their proper name, then it is unwise to re-label certain behaviours as “childish.”

It’s an insult to children because I’ve met children who have exuded infinitely more maturity and respectfulness than some adults. Any time I’ve felt annoyed by a child, all it took was one look at how their parents act and/or treat them in order to spot where that shitty behaviour in the child came from.

Children are sponges. They replicate the behaviour of those around them for better or for worse, and in this sick fucking society, it’s usually for the worse. A lot of adults out there are really just damaged oversized children who are unwilling to face the truth about their childhoods, thus creating the possibility of undoing the damage.

The truth that they were robbed of their happiness, autonomy, and most of all freedom of choice. The truth that when they were children, any time they behaved in a way that inconvenienced the adults in their lives, they were labelled as being “childish.” And by accepting that as the truth about themselves, they end up believing that children in general, by their very nature, are just annoying little inconveniences.

Based on their negative views on children, and their use of the term “childish,” it makes it very easy for me to see why people “grow up” believing in the fallacy of “childishness.” And it’s for these reasons, and many more, that I’m going to stop using the word childish in order contribute to stopping the prejiduce society has on children.

Children are the future, else without them, the human race will cease to continue. And if they are the future, and you want to see a better world in the future, stop ascribing negative attributes to children, and comparing other people’s inconvenient behaviours as “childish.”